After my second divorce, in 2013, as a result of my stroke in 2011, I figured that I was entirely done with women except on a superficial level. However, in February or March of 2016, I had met an unusual woman.

The term “NAWALT” (an acronym meaning “Not All Women Are Like That”) is a thing that may or may not exist. It is like the unicorn, it is a very rare women who intentionally ignores or overrides her hypergamous nature.

Now, this woman of which I speak may be a NAWALT. I don’t know. We have gone for walks with each other, we have drank coffee on occasions, we have even gone out to eat with each other. And in every event, aside from our walks, she has always paid her own way.

She would not allow me to pay for her meals or coffee. At all.

That makes this woman a very rare woman.

And while all men with any brain would willingly die for this woman, since she pays her own way, is stunningly beautiful, and is built perfectly. I have sadly come to the conclusion that we are not compatible.

Yes, I have stopped pursuing the perfect woman because of our differences in politics, movie preferences, music preferences, book preferences, and some other minor differences.

Perhaps, in time, we can become friends, by my definition of a friend, but we can never be more than that. I was hopeful, and I was under the delusion that I could change myself to measure up to her. But, as I have said, that is a delusion.

But, I have saved myself from having a relationship that could go bad. It was a brief fantasy, but reality reasserted itself and I know that we could not work.

And so, I regain who I am. I regain my true nature. And I go through life, as usual, yet again.

But it was still a good fantasy for a short while.



About Kevin Benko

I'm a fifty-something generic humanoid sack of water and meat.

3 responses to “The NAWALT”

  1. Sheri McMahon says :

    Isn’t the reference to hypergamous a bit outdated? In fact, I don’t know any women offhand who have married up. As the NYT pointed out in an article 5 years ago, (male) doctors used to marry nurses, now they marry other doctors. Nowadays, men expect their wives to carry half the load financially.


  2. Kevin Benko says :

    Well, maybe not “marrying up” but in my particular situation, after my stroke, she no longer viewed me as a “success object” and, thus, initiated the divorce.


  3. Kevin Benko says :

    And, how many women are primarily interested in a man’s paycheck?

    Men are simple, we want a good looking woman, and… hmmm… um… well, that’s it!

    Women seem to want more than a good looking man, they seem to be concerned if the man has a good income, a house, his car, and other similar nonsense.

    I wish I was gay, because then I wouldn’t have to deal with all that extra crap that a woman seems to want.


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