I am probably about to piss you off. Nevertheless, I have been thinking about the following article for many years and it seems to me that anyone reads my argument should agree with me. However, given the political climate, I am probably going to hear much disagreement. It is most likely that some people will strongly disagree with me because they will intentionally misunderstand what I am going to say.
Let us consider a pregnant female. Now the woman has the option to opt out of the pregnancy. That is to say, that the woman has the absolute and inviolate right to either keep or reject the right to become a parent. Now, for the record, in my opinion, the woman has the right to end the pregnancy without any question whatever.
However, in the case of a man, that option to opt out of parenthood is not only not allowed, it is beyond the grasp of some people of even considering such a thing.
Hence, while a female the right to opt of becoming a parent, the man does not have the right to opt out becoming a parent. In our current political environment, the situation that a man does unilaterally opt out of becoming a parent, the man is labeled as a “dead beat” and then falls under the federal government and, in some states, has his income garnished by the government. On the other hand, if a female has opted out of becoming a parent, she is given a mostly harmless abortion. No harm, no foul.
Tell me. How is this even vaguely resembling fair and equitable?
Suppose, for example, that a man had a right to opt out of being a parent, in much the same way that a woman has had the option for approximately forty years. What would be the result of such a thing:
There would be much less men that would be held captive by an unwanted child and the child support services foisted upon by the government. All the man would need to would be to state that he wishes to not opt into parenthood and the responsibility for the child would be on the woman’s head. Thus, at the most that the man would pay would be the cost of an abortion, if she chose the option.
The act of a woman to “trap” a man into marriage would be a thing of the past. And before one makes the claim that such an act would not be something that most women would do, I will disagree with you and state that there are more such births that you would imagine. Additionally, this would result in having some people getting together that, to be blunt, should never be together, for whatever reason.
As a result of this, we would have a far greater percentage of wanted children. If we break the single vote on opting out of parenthood and allowing both party’s into allowing the equally chooses to keep the child, it seems to me that this would result into more wanted children.
It seems to be the case that some people may disagree with what I have said:
Some people would state that because women hold all responsibility for birth control, that all women should, likewise, be the only person to make the choice to opt out of parenthood. There is a male birth control pill, and the earlier attempts of a male birth control pill and their side-effects have been eliminated. Unfortunately, the male birth control pill is not currently on the market, for whatever reason. And for those who claim that men are not trustworthy enough to remember to take the male birth control pill every day… you have got to be kidding! When the male birth control pill is released into the market, this would represent a great degree of freedom… forever!
Are you saying that you would force people to have abortions? I have said no such thing! This would create a law that would allow a man to opt out of parenthood. A woman is, therefore, free to raise the child or to seek an abortion. This would allow the man as the same legal right to opt out of parenthood in exactly the same way that women have had the same right for the past forty years. We just want an equitable arrangement, we want the same right that women have had for forty years.
Do you mean to say that you want to prevent the woman from having the right to having an abortion? No. I support the right to opt out of becoming a parent, I have absolutely nothing to say about opting into becoming a parent. A woman is free to do what he will, but no individual has the right to force another individual into being a parent against their will.
So, how would such an opting out of parenthood work?
I have no definite idea, however, it seems to be the case that, it is difficult to allow a judge into allowing things in some prenuptial arrangements. So, I would imagine that the rules on prenuptial agreements need to be modified to allow the male to opt out of being a parent. We would also need to have a change into contract laws, we would weaken the Child Protective Services, and probably some sort of affidavit in order to make their wish to opt out of parenthood. Beyond this, I would continue to be an activist for this position.
So, contrary to the rhetoric we hear and see in the popular press, media, and the general culture, I assert that my argument does stand on its own. If anyone should happen to disagree with me, I would ask that you respond with valid and logical arguments.
Ultimately, I wish to have real equality.